“Given a choice between grief and nothing, I’d choose grief.” – William Faulkner
It Is Now the
This is one of those times where I feel pushed to offer something and I don’t really know why and I don’t really know who it is for, but I know that someone…or several someones in the community need it and so here we are.
When we attune ourselves to the Sacred Year, we discover that we are right now in Grief Time. This is a period of time when either Spring or Autumn is just beginning – depending on what side of the world you live in. It is also a time when, in the Christian calendar we observe Lent…a time of allowing ourselves to be in our grief.
One of the themes I have heard from clients and students especially loudly since 2020 is that there ia a heaviness, a grief, that all too often we do not know what to do with.
Why is there grief? What is this grief? It’s different for each person. There are collective griefs like those around our global experience of Covid, there is grief around politics and current events and the pernicious divisions that seem ever present.
And then there is exquisitely tender and personal grief…the loss of a loved one, the dissolution of a marriage, a miscarriage, an argument involving cruel words that can never be taken back, the ways each of us fail and come up short and miss the mark. The ways each of blame ourselves and blame others for being all too human…all of these and more from the griefs we experience and hold and carry.
I do not think grief is bad, nor do I think regret is something to be avoided at all costs. I have found that both have played incredible roles in my own life and in the lives of my loved ones.
What I find problematic is our inability to move through and move with grief…and I think a lot of that inability is rooted in the fact that for many of us, there is no designated time to be with our sorrow.
There are designated times to be with joy, new life, and our beloved dead. There are designated times to say thank you, to celebrate our country, to honor the men and women who have served in the armed forces. There are designated times to celebrate another year around the sun, the longest day and the longest night…but it can seem like there is no designated time to be with our grief, to sit in our sorrow.
Except there is, and its right now.
To be clear, I am not advocating wallowing. I’m advocating acknowledging our sadness, pain, and suffering so that we can find medicine for it, heal, and move forward. It is not healthy or good to carry sadness with you all of the time. It is necessary to release it.
But in order to do that we first have to really acknowledge it, then discover the needed medicines and apply healing.
Now is the time to do that, now is the Grief Time.
✢ You are carrying a heavy load of grief, sadness, or sorrow.
✢ You have tried “getting over” your grief…to no avail.
✢ You feel sad and heart sick but you aren’t entirely sure why.
✢ Grief is creating issues and challenges in other areas of your life.
✢ You have sadness that you want to release…but you aren’t sure how.
✢ You are ready to heal old grief and sorrow.
We will wrap up the experience with a Grief Healing Ceremony that I perform on behalf of all participants
Deadline to register is March 4th by 12 noon, central time
Are You Ready to Face (and Heal) Your Grief?
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